LOVE

What is love?

Is it a just the fulfillment of expectations?

Is it like breath, vital?

Is it a hormonal stimulus?

Is it a principle? Or law?

Is it GOD, for spiritual aspirant?

Is it a mutual sacrifice?

Is it selfishness?

OR

We just say it because everyone around us says so?

Every one will be familiar with this word’s synonym and experienced it at least once in their life, and would have said I LOVE YOU/THIS/THAT at least hundred times. But have we ever thought about it seriously? We ignore most of the things until unless it seeks our attention/ or trouble shoots up.

Like our breath, our internal system we just take love also for granted, it happens. But how it happens?

People describe love, according to their mood-swings I personally think (at least I do).

Love is painful, demanding, complicated, feeling good, beautiful, perennial...

But to do justice to the word LOVE, I think we can’t definitely restrict it in a controlled vocabulary.

If we analysis it by Shakespeare's 7-ages of life;

In infant stage, all that that child requires is food and shelter. Mother provides it to the child, so she becomes the infant’s most loved one. Like wise because of mother-hood (nature's selection only for female) a mother does all her duties towards the young ones and a mutual binding happens between them. The mutual binding is mainly because of the ample time they both spend with each other and mothers feeling of owning the young ones. It is a feeling where a mother feels that the young one belongs to her. So a natural characteristic is that – if we own, we take good care of it, with expectation.

Have you ever heard a mother say “XYZ is my kid”?  Especially a mother never addresses her child as an individual; it will be always...my daughter/my son. (possessiveness/ownership/patented).

At teenage, when in school or college, life is all about friendship. If you just think, the pack which is talented and merry will be crowded with fellowship. Again human get magnetized by happiness.

The bond develops because of happenings in that pack!  Then it comes – the infatuation of opposite sex, which only because of the curiosity to discover many hormone stimulated reflexes.

When we mature and accrue wealth (thinking it gives happiness), we discover happiness is not wholesome, until it is shared (displayed) with loved-ones. So in the market of finding an ideal partner/love (wealth, health, same ideology; totally a safe person to travel for entire journey) we end up in choosing the best (our comfort zone), in our own ways. I don't know where to put “bonded by love” in marriage.

Saints and spiritual aspirants - they renounced all the worldly things and relations; in search of truth, and some-how have experience to say....God is the form of LOVE. But why do these aspirants seek love/God? Is it selfishness?

Yes, even though, they sacrificed everything, they are afraid of being caught in the cycle of birth and death, so they want to attain salvation. It is not the love towards God but it is because of their fear to realms of birth and death.

Like this in every stage of life we experience Love, with a cause; it is never been unconditional. Even though we say 'I love unconditionally without expectation from the other'; the real core is that, we loved our parents, children, brothers, sisters, master, friend, husband and wife with a purpose - self happiness and contentedness. We love because it makes us happy!

LOVE is SELFISHNESS! We love others for our selfishness, it is not mutual. IT IS A SACRIFICE FOR ONES OWN SELFISHNESS. LOVE IS A REFLECTION AND REFLEX OF SELFISHNESS. LOVE IS FOR SELF-HAPPINESS.